There’s nothing so unique about George Zimmerman that isn’t a part of our humanness as well. A closely followed trial that is near conclusion deserves a quick snap shot before final decisions and media hoopla start.
I have opinions on gun control, stand your ground, etc. and that is not what my note is about. This is about an aspect of our human nature that is something we must disrupt constantly. Here’s my take on what George Zimmerman’s context was regardless of the outcome [Written prior to the conclusion of the trial]:
- A strong limiting belief that, in reality, has negative personal value
- Permit to carry a concealed weapon
- Over confidence
- We’re only one step away from a personal disaster or prison.
A strong limiting belief that, in reality, has negative personal valueWe believe things. Some of us believe things very strongly. We think about those things and those things become our “filter” for what is right, what should be. These beliefs create a context for behaviors that are destructive and actually have negative value to us as human beings. We just can’t see it. It’s our blind spot. We may have many blind spots. And we act and behave in ways consistent with the belief. Sometimes those actions go awry and we create real problems – even commit crimes, suffer personal disasters, perhaps go to prison.
Permit to carry a concealed weapon
No, this isn’t about gun control. The permit to carry a concealed weapon is not unlike your freedom to have thinking “tools” and learned techniques that give you an edge. Perhaps you have a strong trait that gives you “special” power in communication or manipulation. When we lack those powers, we seek alternatives. Some of us conceal weapons. Some of us conceal ill will or hidden agendas and we have ways and means to carry them out. We just have to be right.
I know, if I were overconfident, I wouldn’t be going to classes to improve my certification – or I wouldn’t have $80k in student loan debt. This isn’t what I am talking about. Most of us have “we’re not enough” syndrome. When I speak here of overconfidence, I am thinking about how the “strong limiting belief” combines with the “permit” to give the illusion that you are in control, that, in this situation, “I have this.” Wasn’t George Zimmerman a bit overconfident about his ability to subdue the victim? Do we act a bit overconfidently in some ways that derail our best intentions? Do we take up causes that are flawed? Are we putting ourselves out there without really getting to the bottom of our beliefs before we blast the social media, family, friends, coworkers and others with our expertise and passion?
The antithesis of overconfidence, this is how we really feel about it. And in some cases, this is how we really show up. The overconfidence, the “permit”, that belief that I never really looked into, just believed – all show up as me being a wimp. Yep. I am not good enough and I have to develop real courage to overcome this and fulfill my passion, my belief. I can even get others to support me in my belief. As with overconfidence, wimp too is the failure to get grounded in the reality of potential consequences or a weighing of the benefit to myself or humanity. This failure is just problematic.
We’re only one step away from a personal disaster or prison.
I had a coworker once – a great human being who had been to prison, had lived the life on the edge of white collar crime. He recanted everything, gave up everything and has become what I believe to be one of the greatest human beings I have known. Not because he was some close friend, not because of what he was doing, but who he was being. He was being deeply spiritual, openly in service of humankind. He once said, and forgive me if I get this wrong, “you know Jim, we are only one step away from something that lands us in prison!” He’s right. We do things, some things we do are against the law. Sometimes we get “caught” and sent off guilty or not. Oh, no not me, well – perhaps a disaster strikes, a personal major stresser event like divorce, job loss, financial disaster, home loss , you pick one. Your greatest fears (wimp) and over confidence (I was sure this would never happen) seem to have a way with you. For many, this is the start of the new journey: The Hero’s journey. Why am I here? This game seems rigged.
So George Zimmerman killed Trayvon Martin. His limiting belief expressed in the trial by various questioning of witnesses and statements presented — George Zimmerman was a block watch fanatic with a permit to carry a gun and the limiting belief that he was doing this as an important thing, something of value to himself and others. As it turns out his belief in this was flawed. He had a permit to carry a concealed weapon. He was overconfident to the point he got out of his car to pursue the victim. A struggle ensued and Zimmerman fought like a wimp (did he really prepare for this?) and ended up on the bottom of the fight. He killed the victim. He’s now in a personal disaster – one step away from prison.
How about you? Something look to you like “in need of disruption”? Start the journey.
[Supplement to article after the trial is complete, and the jury votes “not guilty”]Nothing has changed. George is still in a personal disaster, just not going to prison for killing Trayvon Martin. He will suffer greatly regardless — if not the media attention, perhaps civil trial or civil rights trial. He can never go back and change his choice to step out of his car the night of February 26, 2012, in Sanford Florida. His limiting belief sucked him in to a terrible tragedy. I’m thinking the serenity prayer now.